Chapter Seven - Establishing "Alter Ego" Using the Internet

Establishing your “Alter Ego” using the Internet:

Finding a girl using the internet is not a difficult task anymore. The proliferation, and more importantly the anonymity, of the internet has made this kind of search a fairly straight forward one.

First let’s talk about anonymity. This is important because any girl advertising for sex must feel secure in the fact that law enforcement is not going to find her, arrest her, and shut her down. It can happen, but the experienced ladies will protect themselves from this using some techniques we’ll talk about later. Remember this: Assuming you have a girlfriend or wife, anonymity is also very important for you as the client! You’ll hear me say “plan ahead” about fifty million times in this book. If you’re planning to use the internet for your sex searches, plan ahead.

Email and Anonymity

The first and most important thing is to have an alternate email address or two. Free email accounts are what make the internet so helpful with our girl finding process. Yahoo, Google, Hotmail, all provide free email accounts. I suggest you pick one and sign up for your free account today. Use a name that (1) you can remember and (2) people that know you cannot guess. It’s important to note that your email address can be anything but you will need a name to call yourself so when corresponding with women, they will know what to call you. Sometimes a variation of your own name will work but ask yourself, “Would my girlfriend know this name was mine?” You want to have plausible deniability if she ever stumbles across your name in MySpace or Craigslist. Google and Yahoo will ask you some questions while you are signing up for your free email account. Some are mandatory and some are not. For name, put your alter ego previously discussed. For age, use your judgment but remember to remember your age (and other made up details) in case you decide to make yourself 10 years younger. Also remember that the gig is up if your girlfriend suspects you are joeblow@yahoo.com and you happen to share a birthday. Make your password something you can remember and don’t make it the same as your “real” email password. It’s not Google or Yahoo that are coming after you for lying so don’t worry about them…worry about jealous loved ones and protect your information accordingly. The great thing about your alter ego account is that you can simply walk away from it at any time and start a new one. Email services will often ask for a related email account. This is usually for the purposes of recovering a password if you forget. I suggest you provide them with one but it’s your call. Once you’ve established your new email account(s), and thus your alter ego, check out your settings to find out what is visible to the rest of the world. These email services usually give you a choice on what to show and what not to show. Remember, you should not have provided any damaging information anyway but you’ll have choices as to whether to show your birth year, etc.

Hot Tip from the Author: I have several email accounts and memberships that I keep for mongering purposes. I try to use the same name or as close to it as possible. For example, I may have robbiemong69@gmail.com and robbiemong69@yahoo.com I also have a password system that helps me to remember my passwords. For example is my password root is “12345”, I could modify it so that my World Sex Guide password is WSG12345 and my MySpace password is MS12345. This helps because sometimes you don’t frequent a site enough to remember a unique password; like in the case of an annual or bi-annual trip to Taiwan.

Messenger Services

Once signed up for your email account, don’t forget to sign up for messenger services. A messenger service is a mechanism whereby you can communicate with someone live. This is usually by typing text back and forth but if you have the equipment, you can also communicate with video and voice. Services like Yahoo Messenger and MSN Messenger are very popular and used a lot by tech savvy seekers of the opposite sex. If you have a Yahoo account, I suggest you download Messenger and try it. It’s also free.

I find that messenger services can be helpful when you’ve made a “love” connection and are trying to get to know one another. They can also be very distracting when you’re trying to do one thing and someone is constantly texting you. Check out the messenger settings and use them to turn on or off your availability. You can even select whether or not individuals can see that you’re online. You are also able (within most systems) to use a real photo of yourself or choose to use an avatar that you can create using their software. I suggest using an avatar for general purposes and sharing a picture with someone after you’ve gotten to know and trust them a bit. Blasting your picture around the internet is never a good idea. You never know who is going to see it.

Finally, messenger services give you the ability to cut someone out of your “inner circle” if you’re growing tired of them. Just simply remove them from your list of friends and block them if they are harassing you. No need for explanations.

Hot Tip from the Author: If you’re on any messenger service and you are chatting with a girl, she will eventually ask you to either send her a picture or turn on your web cam. Depending on your situation you can do it or not. Remember that this girl may use your photo once you’ve sent it so know that and take care. My suggestion is to put a picture of yourself in a legitimate email or website that you have. That way, if your girlfriend or wife happens upon your mongering picture somehow, you can always claim that someone “stole” your picture and posted it as a joke. When I share my picture with someone, I always share one that is small with low resolution. It gives them something but its easily defendable. As far as live cam pictures go, you can do it but be aware that they can capture it at the other end. I’m not saying that anyone will use it for blackmail or anything. The more likely scenario is that you accidentally open your camera and the hot babe at the other end happens to be your girlfriend’s best friend. To be safe, use an avatar or as an alternative, find a photo on the internet that resembles you and use it.

Social Connection Utilities

If you spend any time at all on the internet you’ll know that the trend is away from email and towards social utilities such as MySpace, FaceBook, Yahoo360, etc. Establishing even a minimal presence on these social utility sites will allow you to search and connect with others. More and more “service providers” are also utilizing these sites as home bases for their connection to clients. At the time of this writing, I have not had a lot of success making a physical connection using these sites but it is certainly possible. It takes a bit more time to browse and search and determine who is really game for a physical relationship and who is just playing around with your head. I have noticed a lot of attempts to lure male friends in by using the lesbian/bi-sexual ploys that seem to work on many men. I’ve found that a lot of these women are just adverteasing for their pay-for-membership personal websites. These will get you nowhere unless sex video chat or nasty pictures are your sole purpose.

Still these sites are not a bad place to have a presence with your alter ego. This is especially the case if you have the time and patience to work your magic. You may be limited if you do not post a picture so I would suggest finding an alternate picture (someone who resembles you or has your general features) and posting that. That way if you ever do physically meet a woman from MySpace or FaceBook she gets what she’s generally expecting. By the way, I’d suggest MySpace for this activity. It has the most users of the three and it definitely has a sensual/sexual side to it that FaceBook is trying to avoid by appealing to the younger crowd.

Be creative in your searches on these sites. Try a broad search and then narrow it down to your likes and dislikes. For example, your first search may just be for any woman in your location. Then you can further narrow down your search by limiting it to certain age groups, smoking/non-smoking, drinking/non-drinking, etc.

Hot Tip: Don’t be so quick to eliminate married women or even women that say their only looking for friendship. If they’re married or have a boyfriend they cannot just hang it all out there by saying they’re looking for a lover. Like you, they want and need to be discreet. If you find a married woman, or one in process of a divorce, that’s looking for a lover…hold on tight…chances are you are in for a wild ride (in a GOOD way!).

Cell Phones

If you live in, or are visiting a country where you can buy a SIM for your cell phone, I highly recommend that you use an alternate SIM (or phone or both) for your mongering activity. The cell phone is the most dangerous tool in your chest from a prying eyes standpoint. Every message (in and out) and every call (in and out) is recorded right there for any snoopy person to pry through. There are so many options when it comes to cell phone security but I will just say, be smart. Some phones will take two SIMs. If yours doesn’t, there are dual SIM holders available on the internet. A spare phone works great if you have a secure place to keep it or a good excuse as to why you’re carrying two. In any regard, be careful to delete messages and cell history on a regular basis and password your mongering phone if you can.