Chapter Eight - Internet Wild Side Resources

Internet “Wild Side” Resources:

There are a few internet resources that are quite indispensable when it comes to seeking out short time romance. You should keep these in mind when looking at home or when traveling. I will say that there are unlimited sources and I couldn’t begin to describe or critique them all. I can say that wherever you are going, a quick Google search using the name of the place you are going and the word(s) “sex” and/or “massage” will turn up many, many hits. In most places you will undoubtedly be able to find what you are looking for. Speaking as a guy who has done this in just about every city he has visited, it’s time consuming and not the most effective way to go. In a pinch? Try it. Otherwise, following are some ways to make your experience and research more fruitful and fun.

www.sfredbook.com Having frequented California for many years of my life, I find this site to be the most helpful for finding the private residence massage gals (mostly Asian but not exclusively). There are several options with this site. They have a great search engine which will help you locate providers in your area. Membership is provided two ways; (1) regular membership by submitting a review and (2) VIP membership by paying. The regular membership is a great way to get started. You submit a review for one of your past dalliances and they will give you a membership for a period of time. I suggest you take you time and do a good review. This is what makes the site so good. Members review the girls online so you can check what the past few guys have said about the specific girls. Some are vague but most are full of really detailed information. That means if you’re looking for a specific body type or more likely a specific sex act you want the girl to perform, you can narrow down the choices and begin making phone calls. See the chapter on Private Residence Providers for what to expect after you make contact.

Author’s Experience: sfredbook is one of my favorite tried and trusted places to do research. I like to read the reviews in detail and I search for the exact treatment I am looking for. For example, If I’m feeling like I want some “hot tea” treatment, I’ll find a girl who’s been reviewed as an expert in this area and visit her. I also believe if one girl is really good, it is likely that the other girls in her group are good too. Remember these girls are on limited visas and are often only around for a couple of months. There are independent girls and there are girls that are grouped by service name (e.g., Campbell4327). If you find that the girls in one particular service group are getting good reviews, they probably have a pretty good recruiter and trainer. If you must try someone new, try one from this group.

www.tuscl.com The Ultimate Strip Club List is a great site to visit if you’re looking for a strip club anywhere in the world. It is a pay site but, like many of the other membership sites, members will give really good information in the form of reviews. Want to know which lap dance girl lets you touch her? How about which $20 lap dance is a complete waste of time? Which club offers extra services in the upstairs room? It’s all there. Again, when you join, make sure you give back in the form of good detailed reviews.

Author’s Experience: TUSCL is a great place to search for particular dancers in particular clubs. If you’re into that grinding lap dace kind of sexual encounter…and who isn’t from time to time?...check it out. You’ll get the low down on strippers and what they do and don’t do. I used it to find a strip joint in Stockton, California of all places. It wasn’t easy to find but when I got there, I knew which stripper put out in the back lap dancing booths. She was phenomenal in the back room and really made me feel as if she’d have loved to take me home and fuck me then and there. I’m not stupid enough to think she was for real but she made me feel good about myself…and sometimes that’s what counts.

www.worldsexguide.com A must for world travelers, The World Sex Guide give you up to date details on sex providers around the globe. Traveling to Tanzania in September? Check out the WSG for the latest information. The “Guide” itself lags a little behind in timely reports but the “Forum” is real-time posts with a lot of good information. Once again this is a membership site if you want to participate in the “Forum”. The Forum is a running list of questions and comments by members. You can get online and ask for help. Most of the time, the members are kind to newbies there. You will, however, be expected to contribute to the community you find there (in the form of informational posts or reviews). Once a member, you can also send private messages back and forth with other users. Therefore, if you want to share some information with one individual, you don’t necessarily have to share it with the world. I’ve used this to give massage parlor directions to individuals where I don’t want the whole world visiting the place the next day…or worse yet, providing the local police with details to bust my favorite masseuse’s place of business. This is a must “bookmark” site without compare!

Author’s Experience: The World Sex Guide is a gold mine of information. This is especially the case if you can connect with some other guys with knowledge about your particular destination. I have found it to be a resource that keeps on giving. I have also participated in giving back in the form of reviews of my exploits and directions to my favorite international haunts. I have “met” several guys on WSG that have helped me locate good providers. One in particular has helped introduce me to three girls. One is a girlfriend, one is a masseuse with very happy endings, and one has offered me her place for my afternoon rendezvous. My friend on WSG is coming to my area soon and I have been able to introduce him to two ladies in advance of his trip. He texts and calls them regularly and is destined to have a very good time when he visits.

www.craigslist.com Don’t discount Craigslist when searching for your secret lover. Craigslist has some excellent resources for your activities. First, the personals section is a place for people looking for friendship, romance, and more. If you’re looking for an NSA (no strings attached) encounter, there’s even a section for that. If you don’t want to deal with the hassles of internet dating and multiple emails, you can skip right to the “Erotic” section under “Services”. There you will find many, many service providers with pictures and pricing. Of course they often obscure their faces for protection purposes and there are fake pictures that get posted. If you’re thinking about using a service provider from Craigslist try checking sfredbook.com to see if they are also listed there. Then you can read the reviews.

Author’s Experience: I used to read the “Missed Connections” section in the newspapers and then later on Craigslist just for amusement purposes. Some are really funny! I mean who’s going to answer an ad for “Girl on the Metro October 10^th. We made eye contact. Wish I’d said something. Call me.” ?? Well let me tell you a story…I once lined up at the post office behind a really hot babe. Since the line was pretty long, I got to stare at her beautiful ass for quite sometime. I also noticed that her name was on the return address on her packages. I took note of the name and later posted a “Missed Connections” ad on Craigslist. It said something like “Cassandra at Post Office on Friday. Just wanted you to know that you made my day the other day. You are one beautiful girl!” About a week later…I kid you not…I received an email from her saying that she thoughtshe was the girl I was referring to. I right away confessed that I was a bit embarrassed because I was married and should not be complimenting strange women online. She responded that she thought she also noticed me in the P.O. but understood about my situation. Well one thing led to another and a few emails later we had made a date at her place. It turns out she was in the process of a divorce and was really lonely and horny. I went to her place and she was one of the hottest, sexiest babes I’ve ever had the pleasure of fucking. She was wild; sexy underwear, great oral skills, vibrators, etc. I think that was a once in a lifetime experience and the stars must have been aligned for me that week. She liked it rough (I mean slapping type rough) and I was a bit too “polite” for her (I’ve never hit a girl and never will). I’ve never seen her since but I sure do think about her from time to time. I guess the moral of the story is “Missed Connections” are improbable but not impossible.

www.adultfriendfinder.com Adult Friend Finder is another site that is worth a look. It is also a membership site but offers monthly, quarterly and annual plans. It also offers different level plans, like silver and gold. Like any of these sites I recommend that you start with the basics and then proceed from there. This is also a good sight for international travel. There are variations on the theme of AFF like Asian Friend Finder, Mexican Friend Finder, etc. People that have listed on a site like AFF, usually know what they are getting into so there’s not a lot of fact finding as to why someone has posted their listing (like there might be on MySpace). AFF usually consist of people looking for romantic connections either long term or NSA (no strings attached). Yes, there are working girls on AFF so browse away in search of a girl at your end destination. Work your search like any other. Start with the location where you are or will be and then slowly whittle down the potential candidates by making your search more specific.

Author’s Experience: I have not hooked up with a girl from AFF directly but I did meet one. It was apparent upon meeting her that I was not her type. However, she was glad to set me up with one of her friends and she is a girlfriend of mine to this day. She is a sweetie with the hottest ass I have ever seen! So even if you don’t make a love connection, be nice…you may have found a conduit to your love connection.

Safety From Prying Eyes…and Jealous Lovers

It never hurts to be extra careful regarding internet experience. First, always assume that work reads every email and knows everything you do on the internet. My advice? Don’t do it at work unless you can guarantee a completely “off-the-grid” surf experience. By “off-the-grid” I mean you use your own personal Blackberry (or other PDA device) and you don’t connect through any work network or any service that your work pays for. Enough said about that.

The worst work can do is fire you. But upset a jealous wife or lover and you can destroy your life, end your marriage, disrupt the family, and end up seeing your children whenever your wife’s attorney says you can. Be careful! Even if your wife is not the jealous or prying type all it takes is for one of her girlfriends to plant a doubt in her mind. Did she catch her boyfriend or husband surfing porn or chatting with hot chicks on the internet? No doubt she’ll suggest to your honey that she check up on you too.

The good news is that if you’re smart, there are some relatively simple things you can do to avoid unintentional or even intentional snooping.

Ten suggestions for keeping safe from prying eyes:

1) Create different user accounts on your computer. When you do, make sure your files are not shared with the other user accounts. Even if you don’t typically share the computer, set up a “guest” account for emergencies. Password your account with a password that she won’t guess. i.e., Don’t use the garage door password for your computer account.

2) Learn a bit about your browser. For example in Mozilla Firefox there is a setting in Tools/Options/Privacy that will prompt you to clear private data after each session. Internet Explorer is not as easy but still provides a mechanism in Tools/Internet Options.

3) Set your browser history to 0 days and delete it when you can using Tools/Options/Privacy in Mozilla Firefox and Tools/Internet Options/General in Internet Explorer.

4) If you use any chat programs such as Yahoo Messenger or Windows Messenger, check the settings to make sure incriminating conversations are not kept in a log that’s easily accessible to anyone who uses your computer. Always password these programs and remember to sign off when you leave your computer.

5) Watch your “Favorites” or “Bookmarks” in the pull down menus of your browsers. Some websites will automatically load themselves into this area. Then you’ll be left explaining why “Lactating Asian Babes” is one of your bookmarked sites.

6) If you use programs like Windows Media Player, check to make sure you are not leaving a trail of porn through Tools/Options/Privacy/History

7) I find that a good clean up program is an excellent way of making sure history and cache is clean and files that you want deleted are actually deleted. My choice is “CleanUp” and it’s free. Visit http://cleanup.stevengould.org/ and download this freeware.

8) If you keep any incriminating files on your computer Microsoft is not the most user friendly operating system for hiding them. I have found (and am using when writing this book) that right clicking on a file folder will allow you to send it to a compressed, zipped folder. Then you have the ability to password what is inside that folder. Remember to delete the original folder once you’ve verified that your compressed, zipped, and passworded folder is complete. P.S. – This passwording thing works for shit with large folders full of pictures and/or video. Thanks Bill!

9) A great program for capturing pictures and video off your screen is SnagIt. It’s not free but you can download a free trial of it. I like to use this program when I’m chatting in the babe cam sites. I find it funny (in a sick kind of way I guess) that the girl I’m paying to finger herself on her webcam is being digitally recorded for me to enjoy later. But remember, it works both ways so be careful what you’re doing on your webcam.

10) Always, always have another program open that you can quickly ALT-TAB to if you find someone approaching to look over your shoulder. Ironically, as I wrote this sentence, I had to do just that…no kidding!

The above may sound like a lot of work but in reality, once you’ve changed a few settings and installed a couple of safeguards you won’t have to worry about your casual snooper. Now if you have a paranoid schizophrenic girlfriend/wife who’s a pretty good computer hacker (or knows one), good luck!